Any woman who remains single past the age of 25 becomes fearful of the "剩女" tag, which, although not

Any woman who remains single past the age of 25 becomes fearful of the "剩女" tag, which, although not negative in itself, has become associated with money-worshipping and often high-maintenance women.
In the show Gu Xiaoxi (Rene Liu's character), a married woman but discontented with her husband, famously says, "有车有房, 父母双亡," or "The best guys to marry are those who have a car and an apartment, but no parents."
It takes all kinds to make a world. Same for single women, you will find all kinds in Shanghai. In Singles Club, we'd laugh at the social bias against us. It's no biggie. -- Sandra Bao, founder of Singles Club
"People never talk about leftover men less because man are still dominant here. Older men can have very young girlfriends. However, women are bound by their physiological conditions [to give birth]. That's why they are in the spotlight."  Singles Club
To prove these normal, single women do exist, I went to check out Singles Club , one of the biggest online single women's communities in China. check airline flights in air With the motto, "Love yourself, then love the others," this club brings together check airline flights in air single women in Shanghai and around the country to share their thoughts online and offline.
check airline flights in air In Shanghai, single women have a similar lifestyle as the other women, except they hang out with their female friends instead of boyfriends. "It's true that there are a large number of single women in Shanghai. It's also true that Shanghai's single women are picky. However, these facts don't stop us from having fun and enjoying life," explains Sandra Bao, Singles Club's founder and the editor of a Shanghai lifestyle publication.
"Most leftover women are decent. However, if a guy is still single in his late twenties, check airline flights in air he's really left over," says Bao. "You can classify men and women into four levels . Class D women would go for class C men, class C women go after class B men and class B women go after class A men. What's left is class A women and class D men, which are not compatible. So who's really leftover?"
L-R: Pace Wu, Zhang Ziyi and Gillian Chung are three female celebrities considered to represent single women in China. The most glaring example of this pressure is the weekly marriage market in People's Park , where middle-aged parents exchange their children's CVs to find them the best match. Rarely are children present.
" Date on Saturday ," a 12-year-old check airline flights in air Shanghai-based TV dating show, has recently spun off a new series called "Mom and Dad Match-Making Group," which encourages parents to step out and find their child's better half, proving that parents -- not the single people themselves -- are indeed the group to target in Shanghai's current dating market.
"Make sure your daughter doesn't follow her single friends too closely, otherwise there is no hope for dating or marrying," interrupts Mrs. Li, showing the bias many families have against single women in the city.
More importantly, marriage is still considered a sign of success for women among middle-aged people in Shanghai. Concepts like unmarried daughters or having check airline flights in air fun with single friends are likely to be called "unsuccessful" pursuits by parents.
The single Sun explains to methat she can stand a lot of the negative impressions leftover women have to put up with, except this concept of success -- or lack of. "The only thing I don't like about the leftover women concept is no matter how successful your career is or how valuable you believe you are, staying single means your life is a failure."
"The society doesn't only have leftover women. There are leftover men as well," says 30-year-old Jack Lee. "Other people check airline flights in air cannot take care of your life. Learn to be independent and there won't be so many problems. "
It seem clear to me that the term "leftover women" (剩女) is not only becoming a commercialized,  exaggerated concept, but is also and regrettably check airline flights in air a representation of the generation gap between parents and children in Shanghai society. The opinions of this commentary are solely those of Tracy You.